Helping you develop a relationship in which
you're growing together vs growing apart ❤️
Welcome!
Hi! My name's Maria and I am a certified relationship and self-development coach. I use the principles of attachment theory to help my clients navigate their journeys towards creating peace and stability in their connections. As being a Fearful Avoidant myself and burning through a million fires, I now help those with a similar attachment style, both Fearful and Dismissive Avoidants. In these type of connections, having the yearning love and the depth of emotion for one other often might not feel like enough to sustain a healthy relationship as both parties might get overpowered by subconscious patterns of their attachment style, unable to properly care for one another. Therefore, I am a strong believer of developing deep awareness of inner worlds of both yourself and your partner, understating what ticks us off, what makes us feel insecure and unsafe. Having this knowledge of each other and developing new ways to show up better for one another coupled with the deep emotion of love that’s already present is the true foundation for a long-lasting relationship.
Having an Avoidant attachment style does not make us dysfunctional, it’s simply subconscious programming that with enough awareness, self-work and repetition can be transformed into healthier patterns and habits. I come from personal experience that reaching security within yourself and in your relationship is possible and is so rewarding. It’s a journey well-worth starting!
Let me help you start your journey...
Avoidant Attachment Styles Explained
FEARFUL AVOIDANT
ATTACHMENT
STYLE
You struggle with both anxious and avoidant tendencies, causing an inner push-and-pull when it comes to love. You long for deep connection and have a lot of love to offer, but it often feels unsafe to give that love. You experience difficulties in trusting your partner and opening your heart to them. There’s an underlying fear of being hurt — whether through betrayal, abandonment, disrespect or being taken advantage of. So even as you seek closeness, you might also push it away, caught between the desire for love and the fear of it. On the outside this internal battle often comes out as emotional volatility and hot-and-cold dynamics with your partner, while on the inside this leaves you feeling isolated, guarded and uncertain.
DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT
ATTACHMENT
STYLE
You often keep things in your relationship on the surface level, steering away from deeper emotional intimacy — even though part of you wants that connection and comfort from your partner. As a result, this may leave you with a feeling of emptiness in your heart. Being on your own feels much safer, easier than the vulnerability required in close, committed relationships. Using independence as a self-protective mechanism can make you seem distant, emotionally unavailable or inflexible in love. You may find yourself in situations where your partner is asking for more emotional connection than you feel like you’re able to provide them, which can leave you feeling inadequate, emotionally overwhelmed, wanting to distance yourself even further.
SECURE ATTACHMENT STYLE
You feel comfortable and at ease in relationships. You approach love with a hopeful heart, even in the face of past setbacks and heartbreaks. Love feels safe to you. You are open to experiencing vulnerability and closeness with your partner. You trust your partner. You exhibit good communication skills, being able to easily express your needs and feelings in your relationship. You feel comfortable leaning on your partner, while also maintaining a healthy level independence for yourself. You feel assured in your ability to give love and just as confident in allowing yourself to receive it.
Working Towards Secure Attachment 🤍
Plan of Action
Each coaching session is tailored to address your specific relationship dynamics. My work revolves around the self-discovery of yourself, your attachment style, your wounds, your triggers, your needs, goals and desires, your personal journey. We then spend time building awareness around your partner’s attachment style, developing specific communication and behavioral tools that work best for the two of you and the specifics of your connection. These tools can be shared in your relationship. This way you and your partner can slowly start working together, handling each other’s vulnerabilities with more respect, consideration and patience to create more peace in your day-to-day lives instead of producing more ignition with each other.
1. Core Wounds and
Emotional Triggers
We’ll begin by unpacking the nitty gritties of your subconscious mind: any limiting beliefs, triggers or insecurities that are coming up for you personally and within your relationship. I’ll guide you through building awareness and confidence around these things. We’ll also explore your emotional patterns and behavioral coping mechanisms and start building healthy self-regulation habits in these two areas.
2. Personal Needs and
Needs in Relationship
We will then work on identifying your personal needs to cultivate healthy independence and fulfillment in your personal life and to create healthy interdependence in your relationship. Next, we’ll establish a list of specific needs and wants that you desire from your partner. Knowing what you truly require in a relationship helps build a great foundation for healthy conversations with your partner. We’ll also take a look at your relationship expectations and explore what is realistic to expect and what is not in your connection specifically.
3. Healthy Communication
of Needs and Boundaries
We will then look into your relationship to boundaries, in your life generally as well as in relation to your partner. We'll work towards mutual respect of each other's personal space emotionally and physically. Next, we'll examine your current communication patterns with your partner: what works and what doesn’t. We will create strategies for healthy communication, where both you and your partner feel the most heard, validated and best received and where no defense mechanisms are triggered for neither of you. Remember conflict is normal! We just have to approach it right. We’ll work on healthy conflict resolution and healthy expression of needs, relationship desires and boundaries between the two of you.
START YOUR SELF-DEVELOPMENT JOURNEY:
Introductory Call
30 mins Free
1:1 Session
1hr $150
